It’s nice to be important, but it’s more important to be nice.
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Being “nice” does have it’s benefits, but can lead to very self-damaging “people-pleasing” behaviors. I know this as a raging codependent who has spent (wasted) her entire life trying to “be nice” and “have people like me” (not that it ever worked that well).
I think it’s more important to be “firm but fair.” As women, we have to learn to stop “being nice” all the time and “be fair to ourselves,” even when people are mistreating us or we do something they don’t like. It’s not easy to learn to say NO when people are angry or unhappy about our decisions, but it’s something I am working on every day.
So in this case, I would re-write this quote to say:
“It’s important to be good to others, but it’s more important to be good to ourselves.”
And then give the hug!
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i disagree. i agree with catherinetodd.
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